“We have to learn to be our best friends because we fall
too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.”
— Roderick Thorp
friend: noun; a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard;
a person who gives assistance; patron; supporter: a person who is on good terms with another;
a person who is not hostile:
Does this describe the relationship with yourself?
Or is your relationship one that is constantly nagging about what and how you must change?
Which one is easier to listen to?
I’ll bet it’s the one that is kind and patient.
In all the years that I’ve been on the planet and have been coaching, I have not found that beating yourself up works to change a habit or improve personal performance in any positive way.
In fact, I’ve seen it do the extreme opposite which can make the habit or behavior more resistant and difficult to stop.
The nagging can also cause you to rebel and resist change.
To become a better friend to yourself do this Action Step today.
Notice what you say to yourself when you don’t live up to your own expectations, miss achieving a goal, or make a mistake.
Is it accepting or derogatory?
Punitive or re-assuring?
Changing your internal dialogue to be more accepting of yourself is a form of self-love and will begin to dissolve what holds the pesky habit or behavior in place.
Instead of nagging try this: “Oops, that didn’t work as planned.”
Or “Oops I missed that.”
Or “G-r-r-r-r-r-r-r-r, I did it again, I’m so angry and I’m letting it go now.”
See how you feel when you talk with yourself this way.
You’ll become your own BFF (Best Friend Forever)
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